Celebrations of Life (Funerals & Memorials)

CELEBRATIONS OF LIFE…… 

Some still refer to them as funerals and memorials but, there is a beautiful trend underway as a ceremony of this type is now becoming known as a ‘Celebration of Life’.  -Beautiful because it lifts some of the focus away from the grief and onto the treasure this loved ones life has been.  Regardless of what you call it, memorials are a sacred and necessary part of the healing process in our culture. Bless & Clear ministers can perform these ceremonies anywhere you choose.  We know the depth of the grief and the magnitude of loose ends to tie up can be overwhelming.  Your Bless & Clear Minister is here to support your planning and emotional & Spiritual needs.

Our ministers will help you decide if a funeral and/or memorial is more appropriate. The difference is that the body is not present at a memorial. Often, pictures of the deceased are there to honor their life.  Some people need to see the body or the casket to have closure depending on the situation, this is okay too. As well, the wishes of the departed regarding this should be followed.

Your Bless & Clear minister will have a consultation with you regarding the eulogy and funeral and/or memorial preparations. Everything will be written and prepared prior to the ceremony. It will be important to give as much info about the deceased person as possible to help the minister prepare a speech honoring their life. You may discuss any other proceedings you’d like to have such as friends and relatives coming up to share about the person they loved.  A meditation may also be custom prepared for this event.  You’ve chosen us because you or the deceased person do not adhere to a specific religion but would like the essence of Spirit in the ceremony.

This particular rite of passage stays with tradition in terms of proceedings along with any creative idea you may like to include.

                            photo - bnc stairway rights of passage

 

Transition Midwifery

Transition midwifery is an incredible opportunity to honor someone’s life and help answer any questions they may have about crossing over BEFORE they have departed.

In our culture death has often been associated with fear and grief that is often felt but unvoiced, even when one is clearly on their way.  With one of our ministers, you can help someone tremendously on their journey by honoring them in this sacred time. Once this becomes clear either by the person themselves or hospice, that is the appropriate time to get some help. This time is very similar to a birth. Just as the woman waits for her first labor pangs, this loved one is also ready and awaiting their first call from the other side. 

Many people have a difficult time admitting to themselves that this time is near out of fear, or not wanting to disappoint their family.  It is a beautiful gift to let it be okay for you and your family to embrace this birth into spirit.  We also recognize that it may be very difficult to tell your loved one they are now transitioning. We can help you have that conversation and even be present in the room to guide you and offer support.  Once there is some acceptance from the person who is departing it is then time for the minister to answer any questions and help ready them for their journey.

This is a process and more than one visit may be necessary.  Counseling and preparation may be a few visits and then the ceremony (much like last rites in the catholic religion) assisting this beautiful being from their body may come later. Just as with birth you don’t know exactly when this will happen.

When do you contact us and how do we go about this transition midwifery? 

  • When the physically terminal condition has been determined and the person is trying to reach a place of acceptance but may need a little help. At this point the minister may come have a private session with them (and any family members that are in support) answer questions and ask some of the more difficult questions regarding how they want funeral arrangements etc. that the family may not be comfortable asking. 
  • When someone has been ill for some time and is clearly holding on despite the depreciated quality of their physical life. 
  • When many of the final terminal symptoms are occurring (hospice will give you a guideline of symptoms a few months to a few days before the transition) 

Our ministers will also be able to help the family with information about hospice and a list of necessary things to ask the person or prepare for themselves. A family consultation away from the loved one departing can be very helpful to deal with grief and acceptance.  Our minister can be present the first time the subject is broached with the rest of the family that may have a hard time hearing this news. 

Our hope is that this decent to the other side can and will be celebrated much like the birth of a new soul. 

We have trained, degreed, experienced ministers for this type of ceremony and process.

 

All of our ministers have been trained and/or degreed in a variety of modalities.  If you need a reading, personal healing, counseling, life or goal coaching or are interested in classes we will give recommendations. You may visit the professional website of the minister who performed your ceremony, or may choose another Bless & Clear Minister with whom you resonate for further services. Bless & Clear is not responsible for services outside of ministerial duties booked directly through the Bless & Clear Company Headquarters.